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Whenever we meet up, my boyfriend only wants to make out at deserted places. How do I tell him that a relationship is more than that? - Ginger, 19 PDF Print E-mail
Friday, 26 June 2009 18:27

 

 making-out You’re right in saying that a relationship is more than a physical attraction. Your boyfriend might have a very high sex drive that keeps his hands frisky. You’ll need to find a way to distract him, and remind him that a relationship also involves an emotional connection.

 

Arrange to meet him at less deserted areas. Indulge in some shopping, sightseeing, or even a visit to the Singapore Zoo. This could distract his lustful intentions, and allow you guys to spend some quality time together. In fact, he might even enjoy it so much that it becomes a habit to do something else besides making out.

 

If you’re wearing very low-cut and revealing outfits, start off by covering up with a shawl or cardigan. You don’t have to permanently change your wardrobe though; it’s just for this period of time.

 

If he still persists in wanting to make out all the time, then it’s time for a chat. Tell him that a relationship is more than just making out, and that you want to get to know his emotional side as well as his physical side.

 

Do note that you don’t have to stop making out with him completely, because physical attraction plays a part in maintaining a relationship. Let him know that everything should be done in moderation. He should not get angry or stay upset for long, because if your guy loves you, he should not be making you do things that you aren’t comfortable with. On the bright side, at least your guy respects you enough not to feel you up in public.

 

 
COMMENTS (15)
15 Thursday, 14 January 2010 11:25
Eksan
say no straight to his face
14 Wednesday, 04 November 2009 13:11
Honeymoon Girl
Tell him to take it easy or to get lost. Respect is much more important in a relationship and i'm glad you respect yourself enough to speak up
13 Thursday, 22 October 2009 19:12
Nana
I agreed that sex played a part in a relationship too, but I still believed that what matter most isn't sex only...you should tell him what you are uncomfortable with...
12 Tuesday, 13 October 2009 14:47
jing
go somewhere crowded, like a movie or something instead of only the two of you together.
11 Monday, 05 October 2009 23:40
Lazy Lisa
YOUR BOYFRIEND ONLY WANTS TO MAKE OUT AT DESERTED PLACES?

and you want to tell him that a relationship is more than that?

How about making out in public places? that should solve your problem
10 Monday, 05 October 2009 02:25
Kayley
You can rope him in to engage in activites with many other people joining, such as baking or pottery classes. These type of hands-on classes increase the interaction between you and him, and is meaningful by the fact that both of you created something together.
9 Thursday, 01 October 2009 01:16
lilacy_crush24
I tink u shld just dump him..He's most likely with u for sex more den anytink else.
8 Tuesday, 29 September 2009 21:53
Aarthi
I don't think that it means he doesn't love you at all. There are some guys who just have a way higher sex drive or who for some reason feel that love is all about that. So sit him down and tell him that you're not just a booty call and that you love the physical chemistry but you want to try doing other stuff and add dimension to your relationship.
7 Friday, 04 September 2009 23:59
theng285
try to share with him your feeling. tell him that we as a lady is more focus on mentality care instead of physical touch. if he loves and care for you so much, everything can me tolerant and compromise.
6 Tuesday, 25 August 2009 13:46
Nurul Yaqin
yeah i agree with alicia! just speak up.. find out what are his interest..other that u of course. hehe
5 Friday, 21 August 2009 00:10
Cloudie
Usually, if guys are only interested in making out whenever meeting up, they actually do not love you for who you are at all. They are just making use of your body. Sorry to be so discouraging but I do encourage you to beware of him and I won't want you to lose out.
4 Monday, 17 August 2009 12:11
Jeevita
just open up and speak up babe u ... u desereve to be respected
3 Friday, 14 August 2009 12:51
ooi
dump him. he's into sex not you
2 Thursday, 23 July 2009 11:40
serene
it also shows that the guy finds you irresisable
1 Thursday, 16 July 2009 14:44
Alicia
I had an ex-boyfriend like that once, the making-out part was fun for awhile until I realised that it was ALL he wanted to do.
As flattering as it may be, I felt that I deserved so much more from him - and so I told him off. He was taken a back but calmed down enough to see sense.
We started on a new hobby, travelling all around Singapore in search of great food places. It was great and we had less time to make-out after that.
And you know, absence does make the heart grow fonder - and in this case, absence made for better quality make-out sessions. =)

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